What to do for that first visit. I have written in the past about what I do on first meetings but thought this time I would look at what the slave needs to consider prior to the first visit. First off have a long hard think about what you want to achieve. Do you want a long term relationship or are you wanting just to try being a slave. Is it about sex or is it about wanting to serve. Do you have a broad wish to try out a variety of aspects around servitude or is it about one scenario that gets you off.

I suggest you search the internet and read as much as you can. Talk to Masters and other slaves on line and really get a good understanding of what you want. Next join a fetish group either in person or on line. Online is easier to begin with and sites such as Fetlife and Recon are good starting points. This will enable you to learn the jargon and talk to people with similar interests. When you identify a suitable Master on line talk to them for awhile before you consider meeting. I am not talking weeks but make sure you have a good understanding of what they want and make sure they understand what you want. Always be respectful and make sure you always use their preferred title. Don't be overly familiar and during the discussions always read what the Master has written carefully. If he asks a question always make sure you answer the question fully and in detail. If he has to ask a subsequent question about the same thing then you need to include more detail. This is important as I find it frustrating when I get half answers or no answer to a question. The discussions should also include what the first session will entail. Be specific and work out the program prior to the event. Spontaneity is good but for a first visit a firm program will take a lot of the anxiety out of the meeting. Next work out a good location for the visit. I like to use a local sex on site venue as it has private rooms. There are people on site walking around and so it is unlikely that anyone will feel too venerable. Meetings in private houses or parks always leaves some one feeling nervous for a first visit.

Give the Master a number of possible meeting times so they have a choice. If there is any doubt about being available don't list it. Only list when you are definitely available. Nothing kills a budding relationship like a last minute cancelation. Try to meet fairly soon once you decide to go ahead. A visit a week ahead rarely comes off. Get a list of what is expected of you from the Master and make sure you meet all the requirements. If he wants shaved pubes don't rock up warbling something about how you want him to shave you. If the Master wants to shave you, they wouldn't ask for you to have shaved pubes on arrival. I like slaves to stand respectfully, head bowed, feet apart, hands by their side and motionless outside the meeting venue. I give this as part of my detailed instructions prior to the first session. Nothing pisses me off more than to find the slave standing around gawping at passers bye. Make sure you get there early so if you are delayed there is extra time to catch up if necessary. Once the session begins then do as you are told quickly. Not everything that happens during the session will necessarily be to your liking but bear with it as you won't know until you try it. Talk to the Master and let him know how you a coping as you go (if you are not gagged). At the end of the session give him feedback and be honest about how it went but remember to be respectful. He will find this useful and help him to better meet both your expectations. After each session make sure you send the Master a message of thanks for his time. Masters like this as it shows respect but also gives credit for all the preparation that goes into each session before the slave even shows up.