Master Led Relationship. Well let me state straight off that each Master/slave relationship is different to some degree or other however there are two types of Master/slave relationship which are considerably different. One is the normal Master/slave relationship where the Master runs the show and uses the slave according to their agreement. The second type of Master/slave relationship I want to explore today involves the situation where the Master/slave are also boyfriends.

The main difference between the two types of Master/slave relationship is the emotional attachment. You cannot have a boyfriend relationship without some form of emotional attachment. This can then create tensions between the normal Master/slave relationship. For the boyfriend relationship to work I think more effort needs to go into the agreement. You need to be very clear of boundaries and stick to them religiously. Once you have that sorted, you also need to be flexible, so that when the emotions kick in and irrationality comes into play, that you can adapt your actions accordingly. This may sound like the exact opposite to my previous statement and you would be correct in thinking that at face value. Unfortunately we are talking about emotions which don't have to follow rhyme and reason. So the Master has to be particularly attune to his slaves reactions and in the words of the great Kenny Rogers "You've got to know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em, know when to walk away and know when to run". This is not easy and this is why the boyfriend relationship is very hard to maintain. I met a Master/slave couple who had lived together for a couple of years. They described an incident where the slave had had a very tough day at work. He was normally expected to be naked around the house. This particular day the Master came home and the slave was fully dressed and sitting on the floor. He failed to acknowledge the Masters presence and was grumpy when challenged. The Master realised there was something wrong and left him for 20 minutes to cool down. Eventually the slave realised what he had done and he came out to the Master naked to apologise. The Master listened to his story and provided some emotional comfort. He then told him to get the paddle and lie over the back of the couch with his bum in the air. The slave was then punished for his rudeness. If the Master had taken to the slave the moment he got home then the relationship could have been over.

Being in a boyfriend relationship also brings the challenge of time and boredom. Being in each others company most of the time means that the Master has to be quite creative to keep it interesting or one or both parties will get bored. Some couples get around this by only living the Master/slave dynamic during set times or only during sex play. This to me is only playing and lacks real commitment to the life style. There is also the degree of involvement. You could argue that where a couple has a dominant partner who approves all the decisions, and who is probably (but not necessarily) the top, then they are living in a Master/slave arrangement. This could even be true if the sex is vanilla. This would be the lowest end of the scale but is probably the most common form on the Master/slave boyfriend relationship scale. In future posts I will delve further into this topic and would like to hear from Master/slave couples on their situation.