The straight newby. I was recently contacted by a straight Asian guy who is married and wanted to experience the Master/slave dynamic. This is not the first time this has happened and adds weight to my theory that in this day and age people are more experimental and sexuality is more a line than a pocket. At one end is gay and the other end is straight and people move to the left and right of the line according to who they are with, their developing interests and their environment. Along the line are little side lines which contain special interests like BDSM, WS, dwarves, pregnant women, grannies, socks, leather etc. I digress. He was keen to meet and it was arranged it in a public space so we could check each other out. Over a coffee we talked about his likes and dislikes and what he wanted to achieve. I discussed how I run these sessions and he sat listening attentively. The boi I will call slave 24 asked some good questions and answered my questions confidently without bullshit. From my questions I gathered he had had almost no experience other than straight vanilla and definitely no gay experience. This was going to be a big leap for vanilla 24. The only kink appears to be that his wife gets some enjoyment out of pegging him very occasionally.

Vanilla 24 was a big guy for an Asian, standing around 6' 3" with quite big hanging balls, a bit over weight but with muscles. At first glance his dick appeared quite small but once it got angry it was a grower and shot out to a respectably 6", uncut and on the thickish side. I was unsure how someone so vanilla would cope with a session so I decided to test him out. I led him to the public toilets without telling him what I intended. The first toilets we visited appeared to be the centre of a parade and so we relocated to quieter ones around the corner. Once inside I opened the fly on his pants pulled down his jocks and started to fondle him. I also made a cursory check of his body by exposing his nipples and giving them a tweek. I was pleased to see that his cock became hard instantly to my touch. He would be alright and so we parted and went off to check diaries for a session time. Over the next week every time I spoke to him on line he mentioned how turned on he was by me handling his cock. I also got a lot of texts as he was really getting hot at the thought of the upcoming session to the point where I had to tell him to settle down. On the day he couldn't wait for the kink club to open and wanted to meet early for coffee. I made him wait. When we got there the club was late opening. I got impatient with the small talk and so I led him around the corner to a lane. I put him against the wall and felt his cock and balls. There was no movement there. We nearly got caught as a tradie walked past just as we headed out of the lane. The club was open and so in we went. The barman was still opening up and so while vanilla 24 and I were alone I unzipped him and felt him up again. Still no movement in the sausage department. Once inside I had him strip in the bar area in front of the barman and gave him a physical examination including inside his mouth. Running my fingers around his teeth.

His dick if it was possible appeared even smaller. He was wearing a thin leather strap around his cock and balls and his poor little weaner barely poked out from under the leather with his foreskin puckered like it had sucked a lemon. He was so nervous you could smell the fear in his sweat and there was plenty of that making him clammy. He was then ordered to pick up his clothes and the towels and we headed off to our private room. From my discussions with vanilla 24 I knew he wanted to be paraded around the club naked and felt up by all and sundry. Well he was going to have to wait as I wanted to get him dick working first. He was tied to the bed spread eagle and helpless. I then commenced to edge him. Fortunately he started to settle down and his bratworst went from clit to cock, inch by struggling inch. I put him into a couple of bondage positions and edged him at each stage. He was loosening up and his cock was starting to respond quickly to stimulation. Time for the walk around. As it appeared quiet, we skipped the hood and set off on the detailed tour. I made him pose for a number of photos in the public areas. Once we got to the down stairs play area I had him lie tied in front of the porno screen where I wanked him a few more times right up to the edge, to the point where his cock was throbbing but not spitting. I then had him wank for my entertainment but once again only up too but not cumming.

I then tied him to the St Andrews cross and wanked him yet again while he was spread out. I was a bit annoyed as the club was totally empty and even the barman had retreated to the office and so back to our room. Back in the room I had him present his arse. It was time we gave that virgin hole a test run. I used a number of dildos on him gradually increasing the size. He was very sensitive though and couldn't take much friction and so I worked the dildos slowly in and out. That was enough for an introduction so off to the stocks then for more intense action. Unfortunately I realised we were nearly out of time. I wanted him to go away happy and so he was put spread eagle on the bed again and edged but this time allowed to cum. Let me tell you it has been awhile since I had seen that much cum. He shot it as high as his nipples, in thick dollops of salty goodness. I then scooped it up and put it into his mouth. He was then sent on his way and told to talk to me on the fetish website. Shortly later I received a text thank you on my phone like every good slave should do after a session.

Sex rules with a BF.As discussed in my previous post it is possible to have a boyfriend who is also a slave but it requires much more effort if you want it to last. Right from the start you need to think about rules for how it is going to work and you need to have a long and open discussion about it. In a normal Master/slave relationship the Master can have sex with whoever he likes however the slave only has sex with persons blessed by the Master. In a normal B/F relationship this is not the usual case.

So if the Master intends to have sex with whoever he wants then this needs to be part of the agreement but it probably won't fly for long. What usually happens is that there is an agreement for third parties to come and play but only with both the Master and slave. In one of my previous relationships I would occasionally let the B/F have sex with someone by him self but it was generally a task designed to put him under pressure. He would be told to go and find someone to have sex with and send me a photo within 3 hours and he wasn't to go to a sex club. I had lots of variations on this theme. Once he had two hours to get a photo of himself totally naked beside a fully dressed male in an outdoors area. This put him under lots of pressure. I always wished I had got him to get a photo of him naked with a female. This would have been better as I knew he would have hated this and so it put him under even more pressure. There were other times I had him go out and get a photo with himself naked with a person of an ethnic variety, body shape or age which he didn't like to cause maximum pressure.

Other variations on this theme was to have him get a photo of himself naked beside a fully dressed stranger but for him to have him wear his chastity cage. This ensured the stranger was totally aware of his slave status and it also made him have to explain himself without being able to talk it away as a bet or student prank. Once on holiday I had him go out and recruit someone for both of us to have sex with and gave him specifics about what age, body type and ethnicity I wanted him to source. He got some one in the end but it wasn't to my specifications and so he was made to just watch. As previously mentioned as a Master you need to be able to read the room. If you have an open ticket to have sex with whoever you want, then you need to sense if the slave becomes unhappy with this and modify the agreement or your behaviour. It is also nice to provide treats for a B/F and so occasionally you may like to recruit someone specifically for the slaves use. It is important even for a slave/BF to feel special at times so that he knows you care.

Master Led Relationship. Well let me state straight off that each Master/slave relationship is different to some degree or other however there are two types of Master/slave relationship which are considerably different. One is the normal Master/slave relationship where the Master runs the show and uses the slave according to their agreement. The second type of Master/slave relationship I want to explore today involves the situation where the Master/slave are also boyfriends.

The main difference between the two types of Master/slave relationship is the emotional attachment. You cannot have a boyfriend relationship without some form of emotional attachment. This can then create tensions between the normal Master/slave relationship. For the boyfriend relationship to work I think more effort needs to go into the agreement. You need to be very clear of boundaries and stick to them religiously. Once you have that sorted, you also need to be flexible, so that when the emotions kick in and irrationality comes into play, that you can adapt your actions accordingly. This may sound like the exact opposite to my previous statement and you would be correct in thinking that at face value. Unfortunately we are talking about emotions which don't have to follow rhyme and reason. So the Master has to be particularly attune to his slaves reactions and in the words of the great Kenny Rogers "You've got to know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em, know when to walk away and know when to run". This is not easy and this is why the boyfriend relationship is very hard to maintain. I met a Master/slave couple who had lived together for a couple of years. They described an incident where the slave had had a very tough day at work. He was normally expected to be naked around the house. This particular day the Master came home and the slave was fully dressed and sitting on the floor. He failed to acknowledge the Masters presence and was grumpy when challenged. The Master realised there was something wrong and left him for 20 minutes to cool down. Eventually the slave realised what he had done and he came out to the Master naked to apologise. The Master listened to his story and provided some emotional comfort. He then told him to get the paddle and lie over the back of the couch with his bum in the air. The slave was then punished for his rudeness. If the Master had taken to the slave the moment he got home then the relationship could have been over.

Being in a boyfriend relationship also brings the challenge of time and boredom. Being in each others company most of the time means that the Master has to be quite creative to keep it interesting or one or both parties will get bored. Some couples get around this by only living the Master/slave dynamic during set times or only during sex play. This to me is only playing and lacks real commitment to the life style. There is also the degree of involvement. You could argue that where a couple has a dominant partner who approves all the decisions, and who is probably (but not necessarily) the top, then they are living in a Master/slave arrangement. This could even be true if the sex is vanilla. This would be the lowest end of the scale but is probably the most common form on the Master/slave boyfriend relationship scale. In future posts I will delve further into this topic and would like to hear from Master/slave couples on their situation.

Role play. There is nothing I like better than a good role play. My last blog was about a role play meeting a week ago that involved an Army prison scene. Because of the nature of the scene it was a little more violent than I would normally like and involved some pain being inflicted. Having said that it was a lot of fun and I found that I got right into it.

The issue I had was that it involved the prisoner being hooded and gaged for most of the scenario. I had to push him to the edge but make sure that I didn't go over the edge and make him gun-shy for future sessions. I found it quite hard to gauge how close he was to panic when I couldn't see his face and his words were distorted. I had to rely on his body language and the amount of twisting and turning. Waiting for just that moment when his twitching goes over the edge and starts to suddenly increase in intensity. When twisting or stretching balls there is that moment when the prisoners voice goes up a marked octave and indicates that you have applied enough pain to hurt but not quite enough to damage. This does not come across the same when they are gaged.

I think if it is a house slave it would be a lot easier as you would have a detailed knowledge of his workings but in this case slave 17 has only been to a handful of my sessions and so we are still very much learning about each other. I always encourage slaves to talk to me through sessions (as long as its respectful) and so this generally helps in a normal session but not in this case. There was a moment when I had the prisoner pulling a set of weights across the floor. They were quite heavy and put a lot of pressure on his balls as they were directly tied to just his balls and so his dick couldn't take some of the strain. I found the best way to gauge his level of discomfort was to give him a good wack with the paddle and see if he was able to increase his effort. If he wasn't then I guessed he was at the limit. Not a very accurate guide I am afraid.

You are absent without leave soldier. Last week I had slave 17 contact me asking for a session. Normally we have played at the local kink club but today he wanted to play at his house. As preparation, I had him lay out a selection of his under wear as he gets turned on by underwear and sports shorts. He was told to be kneeling and to be wearing just a T-shirt and shorts. I then made him model them for my entertainment and I made sure it contained plenty of handling of his goods. Not knowing the lie of the land I got him to give me a tour so that I could best work out where we were to play. This particular slave likes to be imprisoned and made totally helpless. I advised him that he was going to be a soldier who was AWOL from his unit and that I was the Military Policeman sent to return him to barracks. I went outside and knocked on the door. The moment he answered the door I burst in with a billy club yelling and ordering him to the ground. He was prodded quite hard with the club so he knew I meant business. He was then quickly bound with his hands behind his back. He was then stood up in front of a table where I started to interrogate him about where he had been and who had helped him get away. I wrote down his answers and then easily found fault as he couldn’t remember the peoples names he quoted. I accused him of being a liar and bent him over the table. He was then paddled with a duster I found lying around his room. It was half a metre long and when you pulled off the dust cloth you were left with a 4 cm wide plastic strip on a handle which was quite whippy and nice and stingy.

I then threw him on a mattress in a side room and locked the door. This is where we nearly came unstuck as the door had a dodgy lock and I couldn’t get the door open. Luckily he was able to get up and open the door from the inside with his hands tied behind his back. He was then brought back into the interrogation room and the questioning continued. Over the next couple of hours I put nipple clamps on his scrotum and nipples. His balls were stretched and given a work out with the paddle. A couple of times he was put back into the side room for time out. One of the times while he was kneeling on the mattress, I had him hooded. I walked around him hitting my hand with the paddle so he heard the slap of it. Occasionally I would give one of his legs, thighs, balls, cock or butt a few stinging flicks with the paddle. This was very disconcerting as he couldn’t see what I was doing and so would suddenly feel the sting. He was proving to be a tough customer and so I had to come up with something extra to get him to talk. I put a bag over the wrestling hood he had on and then started holding his nose and covering his mouth until he started to show signs of distress.

I would then release it just long enough for him to get a couple of breathes and then I would block his air again. There is no good interrogation without some electric torture. I put my electro kit on him and gave his cock a couple of good jolts. This wasn’t on purpose, it was just that the set is playing up and so I gave up on it before his cock was cooked. Time for a hood change and so I put him in a black neoprene hood which has removable eye and mouth covers. To make it that more uncomfortable I put a horse bridle gag on him with a pair of his underwear jammed in his mouth to make it hard to breath. He has nice big meaty balls and I noticed a weight set on the floor of his room. I tied them to his balls and then had him drag them around the room. I had him tied to the interrogation chair while I questioned him for the millionth time. Every time I didn’t like his answer he was paddled in some uncomfortable place. By this time he was talking like a canary and owning up to all manner of things. There was a Russian mafia connection, lots of names of accomplices, and apparently while away from his unit, he fled to China to set up an arms/drug/refugee smuggling business. Anyway all good things must come or is that cum' to an end. The interrogation chair was in front of a large screen TV and so I played one of his porn movies which involved a couple of prisoners being mishandled. While he was tied on the chair he was forced to watch the porn while I slowly rubbed his large cock until he exploded in a fountain of cum. Nothing like a happy ending to a day of torture. Then I got home and found a message from slave 6 and a young local guy wanting to play but that my friends is another story.